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Sandra Qui Turnbull

June 9, 1973 ~ April 11, 2022 (age 48)


Sandra Qui Turnbull. Daughter of Qui Gruba Swart, Steven Micheal Gruba. Step Daughter of Paul Swart. Sister of Pamela Qui Gruba, Steven micheal Gruba The 2nd. Mother of my self Crystal Lynn Turnbull and Joshua micheal Gruba Swart Please give me grace as I struggle with my thoughts and ideas and try to express what an amazing women my mom was. I would like all off us to remember Sandra for who she was as a friend or family member to all of you and to me as the mother she was. My mom was a very loving women with artistic skill that would bring her alive. She absolutely loved doing art. How much time and effort I would see her put into that was just amazing. Watching her reaction to the outcome of her projects, was just the greatest feeling. I would like to share a memory I have of my mom that just brings so much happiness to my heart every time iI think of this. I can remember as a child we would have arts and craft days with her, coloring fuzzy posters. She would encourage me staying within the lines. And also when she painted her niece’s bedroom walls, I remember clearly how much she loved to do it. One thing I really would like to acknowledge my mom for is the love she had for my Brother Joshua. Our mom was so moved by the thought of her son moving to England to follow his dream to play soccer there. Also most importantly she was looking forward to watch her son graduate and start his life has an adult. I can remember how devoted she was about supporting him on the sideline. She loved to watch him play. Right before she passed she was ready to start her journey with her granddaughter Savannah, my daughter, to put her in soccer and how much joy I could hear in her voice, taking her to practice and being at her games. Man how i wish she was here physically to do these things. I would like to thank you all personally for being here today has we lay my mom to rest, she has a home in heaven looking down on us all.

-Crystal Turnbull, Sandra's daughter 


A tribute from Paul Swart, Crystal's Stepfather : 

I came into Sandra's life when she was about 7 years old. We were going to take her, Steven and Pam on a day trip. When Qui introduced me to her, I clearly remember how Sandy looked at me with a look that clearly said something like "What kind of BOZO is this?"

I don't think she ever changed that perception of me ... :)  But when you live with each other for about 38 out of the last 42 years, you get to know each other pretty well, especially during the past 2 years.  For all the downsides of this Pandemic, we learned a lot about each other as she moved in with us and we sheltered in place to stay safe from this virus.

Every evening after dinner we would watch the news and then 2 or 3 episodes of these Netflix and Prime historical series.

This actually exposed a talent in her I had never realized before. There are many plots in these series and many characters to keep track of. Perhaps because she read so many mystery novels by Steven King and others, she was able to quickly understand all those storylines and how all these characters related to each other.

So during every episode we would frequently hit the Pause button and then she would explain what was happening. It made watching those programs a lot more enjoyable.

And during the day she and I often spent time watching episodes of Survivor or Judge Judy or just having discussions on one thing or another. We actually agreed on a lot of things, with the exception of when the subject turned to her Dallas Cowboys.   

Sandra had many other talents, including a creative side.  Three years ago she made everyone in the family these really nice blankets and pillows with the logos of our favorite football or baseball teams.

She also had an amazing ability to learn Vietnamese. She traveled to Vietnam with Qui on 3 occasions and each time she came back with lots of stories and speaking more and more Vietnamese. I had to learn a few languages so I know how hard that can be and I found Vietnamese to be especially difficult. But after she came back in November 2019, she had picked up enough to carry on a conversation with her cousins and uncle.

Sandra also had a lot of talent for work-related skills. She worked at the J&H Appliance company for 16+ years. She started as a dispatcher, and worked her way up into accounting and office management and ended up pretty much running the entire office.  She even ended up helping her colleagues with their taxes every year.  There are several members of the J&H family in our midst and I would like to thank them for having given Sandy that opportunity to grow. She was very proud of what she accomplished at your company.

Sandra was a very generous person. Every year she would surprise Qui & I with a special activity for our Anniversary, including several trips on the Napa Wine Train, Several dinner concerts at that Winery up on these hills behind me.   During Covid she frequently treated us to take-out dinners from Benihana, Outback and Red Lobster. 

When you look back at a person's life, it is not only about how they lived, but also what they leave behind. 

Sandy can rest assured that she is survived by two great kids, Crystal and Joshua and three darling grand kids, Jesus, Savannah and Mia. 

It took her a while to get used to being called Grandma. But she adored these kids.  Of course the Pandemic deprived her of the opportunity to be with them. But that was changing as we are all able to breathe a little easier now. Savannah was the first to spend a few precious weekends with us last month and the others were waiting in the wings for their turn.

Sandra also took great pride and joy in watching Josh perform his athletic skills on the soccer field.

Our legacy is not just about those who survive us. All of us are also survived by the memories we create with those we touch during our time here on Earth. As you can tell, Sandra touched many and many more who cannot be here today.


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April 22, 2022

3:00 PM to 5:00 PM
Darling & Fischer Chapel of the Hills
615 North Santa Cruz Ave.
Los Gatos, CA 95030

Funeral Service
April 23, 2022

11:00 AM
Los Gatos Memorial Park
2255 Los Gatos-Almaden Rd.
San Jose, CA 95124

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